Taipan wrote: Mon Aug 09, 2021 8:17 pm
Thanks Bud. Its in the heat of the moment its difficult. He's gone to bed now, or passed out pissed is probably more accurate! He really is a good lad, with a great work ethic and is just wonderful with his nieces and nephews etc....
Don't beat yourself up, coping with the unthinkable creates unthinkable ideas IYSWIM. A friend in a similar situation with her daughter has some seriously gallows humour about it all - and it helps. 'Normal' stuff and stiff upper lip don't necessarily work in 'abnormal' situations. Dunno what the professionals say!
Yeah, I think I see it as a coping mechanism for what appears to becoming inevitable, but, is it, or a "just in case", which would kind of indicate I believe there is hope? I've certainly descended into a out of family hours, mass of snot and tears too many times and probably need to speak to soemone about it? Its been cathartic to put it out there though, thanks to all.
Taipan wrote: Mon Aug 09, 2021 8:17 pm
Thanks Bud. Its in the heat of the moment its difficult. He's gone to bed now, or passed out pissed is probably more accurate! He really is a good lad, with a great work ethic and is just wonderful with his nieces and nephews etc....
Don't beat yourself up, coping with the unthinkable creates unthinkable ideas IYSWIM. A friend in a similar situation with her daughter has some seriously gallows humour about it all - and it helps. 'Normal' stuff and stiff upper lip don't necessarily work in 'abnormal' situations. Dunno what the professionals say!
Yeah, I think I see it as a coping mechanism for what appears to becoming inevitable, but, is it, or a "just in case", which would kind of indicate I believe there is hope? I've certainly descended into a out of family hours, mass of snot and tears too many times and probably need to speak to soemone about it? Its been cathartic to put it out there though, thanks to all.
What Yorick says. Talk/onload emotions and feelings on here. Lots of people will read and reply - most of us would listen if you need to call.
xxxxx
Life is for living. Buy the shoes. Eat the cake. Ride the bikes. Just, ride the bikes!!
Don't beat yourself up, coping with the unthinkable creates unthinkable ideas IYSWIM. A friend in a similar situation with her daughter has some seriously gallows humour about it all - and it helps. 'Normal' stuff and stiff upper lip don't necessarily work in 'abnormal' situations. Dunno what the professionals say!
Yeah, I think I see it as a coping mechanism for what appears to becoming inevitable, but, is it, or a "just in case", which would kind of indicate I believe there is hope? I've certainly descended into a out of family hours, mass of snot and tears too many times and probably need to speak to soemone about it? Its been cathartic to put it out there though, thanks to all.
Talk away matey. Lots of good listeners on here
Talks cheap. Free holidays FTW! Seriously though, thanks for the support everyone. I'm the go to Guy for my family and as much as I'm happy, and proud, to help, it kinda loads you up at times, so I maybe vented where I maybe shouldn't have, but I sure as shit needed to. He maybe 27 but he's still my kid. Anyway, he's asleep now and we live to fight another day. Think i'll crack open a bottle. Cheers...
Taipan wrote: Tue Aug 10, 2021 12:38 pm
Made my first garden chair by using up some old wood. Not the prettiest I'll admit but I hope to improve as I go, but its functional!
the new splinters in your arse chair, guaranteed to have you sitting tight for hours on end!
Glad that your son is more positive again. Just because you are the go to person in your family does not mean you don't need go to people to talk to and be able to vent. Take care of yourself too and give yourself some clear headspace. Grace and peace to you and yours.
Proverbs 17:9
One who forgives an affront fosters friendship, but one who dwells on disputes will alienate a friend.
Today I delivered an apple tree! Bought to celebrate my training incumbent being made a Canon at Rochester Cathedral. Also got a fairly expensive bottle of cask strength Laphraoig for him too. So he is filled with the Spirit and Fruitful! He was really delighted and will enjoy the gifts.
Helped inflate the camping beds for the youngsters camping fun in the church garden and then headed home to celebrate my daughter getting an A* distinction for the Extended Project Qualification she submitted earlier in the year. Based on Art and Psychology and children's work. She spent hours on that project and really worked very hard. So proud of her!!
Now to finish my sermon for Sunday and then check the liturgy for the service I am leading Sunday evening. Also sorting out invitations to my ordination service on 25th Sept at Rochester Cathedral. All very exciting and humbling.
Proverbs 17:9
One who forgives an affront fosters friendship, but one who dwells on disputes will alienate a friend.
Taipan wrote: Tue Aug 10, 2021 12:38 pm
Made my first garden chair by using up some old wood. Not the prettiest I'll admit but I hope to improve as I go, but its functional!
Call it 'The Gift', stick it in an art gallery. £25k. Sorted.
I've just had two Long Island Iced Teas @ £13 a pop.
Not-very-happy-hour?
I remember popping into Claridges for a couple of pre-dinner drinks some years back. Cost almost as much as the dinner, and it we didn't go cheap on the nosebag, either.
Seriously though, thanks for the support everyone. I'm the go to Guy for my family and as much as I'm happy, and proud, to help, it kinda loads you up at times, so I maybe vented where I maybe shouldn't have, but I sure as shit needed to. He maybe 27 but he's still my kid. Anyway, he's asleep now and we live to fight another day. Think i'll crack open a bottle. Cheers...
