Taipan wrote: ↑Thu Aug 29, 2024 9:21 pm
I’m away in my campervan and we brought the in-laws with us. M-I-l is 94 and has dementia but is pretty good overall, but by fook is it hard work repeating everything that she’ll only forget 2 seconds later! it’s also really terrible to see such a smart dressed nice lady slowly reduced to this and losing her dress sense and looking garrity! There are of course worse diseases but this one sure ain’t fun! It’s been an exhausting day and I have nothing but admiration for f-I-l who copes with this daily despite it breaking his heart. Think I might start buying bikes again as you never know what’s going the corner!
Live for now cos life turns to shit with shocking speed sometimes (and then once it’s turned to shit it’ll sit in that shit for some time )
Hugs to you all. Dementia is tough
Life is for living. Buy the shoes. Eat the cake. Ride the bikes. Just, ride the bikes!!
Taipan wrote: ↑Thu Aug 29, 2024 9:21 pm
I’m away in my campervan and we brought the in-laws with us. M-I-l is 94 and has dementia but is pretty good overall, but by fook is it hard work repeating everything that she’ll only forget 2 seconds later! it’s also really terrible to see such a smart dressed nice lady slowly reduced to this and losing her dress sense and looking garrity! There are of course worse diseases but this one sure ain’t fun! It’s been an exhausting day and I have nothing but admiration for f-I-l who copes with this daily despite it breaking his heart. Think I might start buying bikes again as you never know what’s going the corner!
I've watched this nasty disease rob family and friends of who they are. It's like watching a train disaster in slow motion. There is no positive end result,all family can do is be there and treat the person with love and dignity,two things mostly absent from the caring institutions.
Good on you for what you do TinPan,it won't last for ever,but you'll be happy you did the right thing.
Taipan wrote: ↑Thu Aug 29, 2024 9:21 pm
I’m away in my campervan and we brought the in-laws with us. M-I-l is 94 and has dementia but is pretty good overall, but by fook is it hard work repeating everything that she’ll only forget 2 seconds later! it’s also really terrible to see such a smart dressed nice lady slowly reduced to this and losing her dress sense and looking garrity! There are of course worse diseases but this one sure ain’t fun! It’s been an exhausting day and I have nothing but admiration for f-I-l who copes with this daily despite it breaking his heart. Think I might start buying bikes again as you never know what’s going the corner!
I've watched this nasty disease rob family and friends of who they are. It's like watching a train disaster in slow motion. There is no positive end result,all family can do is be there and treat the person with love and dignity,two things mostly absent from the caring institutions.
Good on you for what you do TinPan,it won't last for ever,but you'll be happy you did the right thing.
It was a long two days for sure. I was sitting with her and she asked where we were going today. So i said we're having a short walk into town and we'll stop along the way as there are a few nice benches with flowers around them and at the top there is a nice fountain with goldfish in and surrounded by lovely flower beds. She was really pleased at this as I knew she would be. 3 minutes later the same question and I delivered a slightly shorter answer. This carried on until My answer became, just popping into town. Then I thought, its not her fault and had a word with myself to stop being such a miserable bastard and to take the time to excite her with the original answer each time she asked. The reward was of course seeing her face light up each time, but I have to be honest, its really wearing and people who live with their partners suffering this have my utmost respect.
Taipan wrote: ↑Sat Aug 31, 2024 1:13 pm
It was a long two days for sure. I was sitting with her and she asked where we were going today. So i said we're having a short walk into town and we'll stop along the way as there are a few nice benches with flowers around them and at the top there is a nice fountain with goldfish in and surrounded by lovely flower beds. She was really pleased at this as I knew she would be. 3 minutes later the same question and I delivered a slightly shorter answer. This carried on until My answer became, just popping into town. Then I thought, its not her fault and had a word with myself to stop being such a miserable bastard and to take the time to excite her with the original answer each time she asked. The reward was of course seeing her face light up each time, but I have to be honest, its really wearing and people who live with their partners suffering this have my utmost respect.
We did the same with MIL. The same stories she enjoyed before,we repeated each visit. It feels stupid at first,but it was one of the diminishing pleasures she had left and worth it for all the daft feelings on our part. Eventually even this was taken away,when she began to forget the people in the stories,so the stories meant nothing. Hard going mate.
Went into a Greggs. It was an interesting experience and somewhat of a cultural shock. The clientele were a mixed bunch, from Cuprinol-coloured teenage girls with eyelash extensions of impressive length, to the clinically obese mouth breathers in a soporific state induced by too much saturated fat.
Greggs is weird. I used to love certain things - think it was the chicken slice, and they did a Christmas slice too! I didn't often buy much else really and it was something I missed when on seasons.
But the last few times I've been back I've had no inclination to go and test how they taste now. Pretty sure my tastes have changed a bit, so I kinda want to remember that I liked the chicken slices before rather than spoiling the memories by realising how horrible they probably really are!!
Life is for living. Buy the shoes. Eat the cake. Ride the bikes. Just, ride the bikes!!
it’s also really terrible to see such a smart dressed nice lady slowly reduced to this and losing her dress sense and looking garrity! There are of course worse diseases but this one sure ain’t fun! It’s been an exhausting day and I have nothing but admiration for f-I-l who copes with this daily despite it breaking his heart. Think I might start buying bikes again as you never know what’s going the corner!
it’s also really terrible to see such a smart dressed nice lady slowly reduced to this and losing her dress sense and looking garrity! There are of course worse diseases but this one sure ain’t fun! It’s been an exhausting day and I have nothing but admiration for f-I-l who copes with this daily despite it breaking his heart. Think I might start buying bikes again as you never know what’s going the corner!
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Thought the effect from my helmet/visor was hilarious though!
Reminds me of being a kid going to look at classic machinery with my parents, and is more achievable than a steam engine 
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