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Docca wrote: Tue Oct 25, 2022 3:52 pm Not sure if I’ve posted this before, but might be useful to some

Which one is produced by checking your 'Likes' on social media?

Wscad wrote: Tue Oct 25, 2022 9:35 am

I showed them to the special needs teacher. She took one look at them and guess what she said.

More to follow

Something about being either on the edge of 'the spectrum' or that she's not a happy kid?

Count Steer wrote: Tue Oct 25, 2022 11:04 am Agree with the satisfaction of 'getting something done'.

Health is a big factor too. When you've had days where waking up and going 'Woohoo! Still alive' and going to bed saying ''Survived again ' are the days high points it changes your perspective on the joys of owning 'stuff'.

Having spent the last 5 years suffering varying levels of pain, but always in it, I have to say at times its pretty hard to be chipper!

Taipan wrote: Tue Oct 25, 2022 5:51 pm

Count Steer wrote: Tue Oct 25, 2022 11:04 am Agree with the satisfaction of 'getting something done'.

Health is a big factor too. When you've had days where waking up and going 'Woohoo! Still alive' and going to bed saying ''Survived again ' are the days high points it changes your perspective on the joys of owning 'stuff'.

Having spent the last 5 years suffering varying levels of pain, but always in it, I have to say at times its pretty hard to be chipper!

100%.

People over here (and on FB) often say to me that I'm brave because I paste on a smile and keep on going in a positive manner.

But to me, there is no choice, so how is that brave (or inspirational is another). Just because I write/talk/seem positive, its FUCKING hard to put that smile on and seem that way. And in that, there is another straw that could tip a person over because just having to try that hard to 'seem' ok is very challenging!

I consider that I had no choice. Like Taipan, I had 5 years or so of pain, and disappointment, surgeries, knock backs etc. I'm not brave (or inspirational) - I had no choice but to pretend because I did that or I quit. Quitting seemed a bit too terminal for the sake of pretending and waiting a bit longer (and a bit longer again, and again!)

I'd go to bed with the thought of "survived again - FFS got to do that again tomorrow" - not much positive or to look forward to there!!

Taipan wrote: Tue Oct 25, 2022 5:51 pm

Count Steer wrote: Tue Oct 25, 2022 11:04 am Agree with the satisfaction of 'getting something done'.

Health is a big factor too. When you've had days where waking up and going 'Woohoo! Still alive' and going to bed saying ''Survived again ' are the days high points it changes your perspective on the joys of owning 'stuff'.

Having spent the last 5 years suffering varying levels of pain, but always in it, I have to say at times its pretty hard to be chipper!

Yeah, I'm with you there although pain is a bit different from what I was thinking of up there^.

The thing I found with chronic pain wasn't just the pain it was lack of sleep. Like, every time you move you go Ow! and wake up. Eventually ie over a year*, the sleep deprivation does really unpleasant things to your head. Chipper doesn't come into it, I was slowly going tornado.

* I fell through a crack in the total perspective vortex when they ripped out the old IT system and put in a new one - which cost me an extra few months.

Count Steer wrote: Tue Oct 25, 2022 7:18 pm

Taipan wrote: Tue Oct 25, 2022 5:51 pm

Count Steer wrote: Tue Oct 25, 2022 11:04 am Agree with the satisfaction of 'getting something done'.

Health is a big factor too. When you've had days where waking up and going 'Woohoo! Still alive' and going to bed saying ''Survived again ' are the days high points it changes your perspective on the joys of owning 'stuff'.

Having spent the last 5 years suffering varying levels of pain, but always in it, I have to say at times its pretty hard to be chipper!

Yeah, I'm with you there although pain is a bit different from what I was thinking of up there^.

The thing I found with chronic pain wasn't just the pain it was lack of sleep. Like, every time you move you go Ow! and wake up. Eventually ie over a year*, the sleep deprivation does really unpleasant things to your head. Chipper doesn't come into it, I was slowly going tornado.

* I fell through a crack in the total perspective vortex when they ripped out the old IT system and put in a new one - which cost me an extra few months.

Yes, sleep deprivation for the reasons you mention is a massive part of my life. I often sleep in my office at lunchtime, because I literally can't keep awake lol! Also because I have to, as I lose focus on what i'm doing. I know what I need to do, but can't process the action. Its beyond infuriating!

The pain I can normally manage, but at times it gets unbearable, not always because of its intensity, but because of its constant encroachment into my life. It does lead you down dark alleys as you get so fed up with enduring it. Thank God for meds!

Taipan wrote: Tue Oct 25, 2022 7:39 pm Thank God for meds!

If/when I find some that actually make any real difference to me, I'll be thanking every deity (and scientist!) I can think of!!!

Luckily I don't really need much in the way of meds now and due to lack of anything that actually worked, I'm pretty used to a level of pain as normal. I'm getting towards the normal that is what others seem to experience now (little to no pain) but bloody hell the last five years have been a challenge - not least because medics across the board just don't believe me when I say that codeine, tramadol and morphine have little to no effect on pain levels (and don't space me out to help me not care )

But when it was bad (about four years!) that was not good at all. If i'd have had one of those comfy chairs that lie back a bit and have a foot/leg support, that would have been handy!!

Noggin wrote: Tue Oct 25, 2022 5:05 pm

Wscad wrote: Tue Oct 25, 2022 9:35 am

I showed them to the special needs teacher. She took one look at them and guess what she said.

More to follow

Something about being either on the edge of 'the spectrum' or that she's not a happy kid?

Lonely comes to mind as well.
If she is on the spectrum then it helps you to know and deal with it, has anyone spoken to the school about it?

The teacher said the teen needs assessing for autism by a professional. Wife mention this to teens father and says “ nothing wrong with my daughter “

Wscad wrote: Wed Oct 26, 2022 11:15 am The teacher said the teen needs assessing for autism by a professional. Wife mention this to teens father and says “ nothing wrong with my daughter “

Seems to me that you and your wife know said teen better than her father does.

Wscad wrote: Wed Oct 26, 2022 11:15 am The teacher said the teen needs assessing for autism by a professional. Wife mention this to teens father and says “ nothing wrong with my daughter “

Tell father his daughter needs a security guard to follow her, then hire an autism nurse.

Wscad wrote: Wed Oct 26, 2022 11:15 am The teacher said the teen needs assessing for autism by a professional. Wife mention this to teens father and says “ nothing wrong with my daughter “

FFS. People are so worried of judgement and difference that they forget the human being involved

It could be a combination of things showing up as similar symptoms. And autism isn't the horrendous label it used to be

Don't suppose I should say this, but can the father be bypassed and the school talked to??


She might just be lonely and depressed - I went to a boarding school (as a day pupil) and it seemed then to be a challenging life for some. Of at school and barely seeing parents. You guys are family, but she will miss her parents I'd guess

Doesn't make it any easier for you or her xxx

I'd say you're absolutely right. Happiness does not come from material stuff, having a big house, loads of spare cash to buy whatever nonsense you want. People might say it helps, or that they couldn't do a certain lifestyle without it, but when you strip it back the happiness isn't about that at all. Depression effects everyone, from millionaires to the working man.
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Happiness doesn't come from material stuff (although it helps having a nice house where the sun shines every morning).

Happiness comes from feeling like you're getting somewhere, call it satisfaction, call it success, whatever, but if you feel like you're making a bit of progress in whatever you set yourself to, then you're going to feel fulfilled to whatever degree. If you go to bed every night feeling like you've wasted your time even getting out of bed that morning, then it has the opposite effect.

These comments have reminded me of the value in Maslows hierarchy of needs.

In an easy to remember format: To live, to love, to learn, to leave a legacy.

Live: we need a safe place to shelter and food to eat.
Love: we are social animals that need to give and receive love
Learn:to acquire skills, improve knowledge and grow as a person
Leave a legacy: you have contributed and have left your mark. Your life had meaning.

If you look at others and of course, yourself, it's interesting to assess how each level is or has been achieved or perhaps exceeded. It can explain why we feel the way we do.

Well, at any rate, I find this and similar theories or models of interest and use.

Watching autumn watch this evening. Sitting outside and listening,watching birds will improve your well being and mental health. This weekends project is to throw some sand down in the greenhouse, deckchair inside and hankie with a knot in each corner on me head.

I’ll let you know how it goes.

Wscad wrote: Thu Oct 27, 2022 8:57 pm Watching autumn watch this evening. Sitting outside and listening,watching birds will improve your well being and mental health. This weekends project is to throw some sand down in the greenhouse, deckchair inside and hankie with a knot in each corner on me head.

I’ll let you know how it goes.

It’ll be better than watching a teenager skulk about making a mess

Are ya getting any exercise? That sometimes helps as it gives ya mind something else to focus on.. & has the added bonus of making ya fitter & more confident... which might lead to getting yer dick wet more often.
I'm paraphrasing what my extremely cute PTSD counselor said.

Caught a bit of what some Doctor was saying on the TV the other day. She was saying that anxiety is fear of the future and can often be helped by focusing on the present and not the future. Things like fidget toys and rubik cubes etc can refocus the mind for temporary relief. If she was good enough to be on the tv talking about it, I assume she must have some merit?

Taipan wrote: Sun Oct 30, 2022 9:44 am ..................... If she was good enough to be on the tv talking about it, I assume she must have some merit?

Depends. Was she fit? If she was she could be talking a load of bollocks and she would still get air time.

Taipan wrote: Sun Oct 30, 2022 9:44 am . If she was good enough to be on the tv talking about it, I assume she must have some merit?

I wouldn't rely on the telly - salient academic medical advice does not make great ratings. There's a certain amount you can get from the internet, if you read between the lines. GPs (especially the younger ones. Note - they're nearly ALL younger ones now somehow ) seem less arsey these days about folk bringing in considered Google diagnosis and remedy. My own GP Googles things quite openly in front of me.

Cousin Jack wrote: Sun Oct 30, 2022 10:55 am

Taipan wrote: Sun Oct 30, 2022 9:44 am ..................... If she was good enough to be on the tv talking about it, I assume she must have some merit?

Depends. Was she fit? If she was she could be talking a load of bollocks and she would still get air time.

If she was, she wasn't to a memorable amount! Oh, and I was being facetious about being on tv, although I did kinda get her point...