How often do you ponder your own mortality? Does it bother you?

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I'm a few years/decades behind a lot of you, at a mere 45. I like to be prepared though. So:

(1) I have a copy of 'The Peaceful Pill Handbook', and have made plans based on that to do my best to avoid a long, suffering, end.

(2) Wills are done (not POA as not sure who we'd nominate other than each other, but bears revisiting).

My main concerns are my dependants - parents, t'other half, and pets. All are likely to cart it before me, unless my boobs kill me, so then I'll be free to check out whenever, and the sooner the better, frankly👍
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I almost never consider my mortality, it's inevitable so how will getting worked up help?
I do consider my health and how others will be provided for so I'm not ignoring it, just not stressing about it.
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Never think about it. I may be almost 62 but my brain is still saying i am in my 20's
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I don't think about death. But when I see old guys, shuffling around because they can't walk properly anymore, I can't help but wonder how long I've got before that's me?!

Bear in mind I've got a permanent gait from breaking my leg 25 years ago plus I'm currently still limping after breaking my foot 4 and half months ago.
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Skub wrote: Fri Jun 13, 2025 1:55 pm
Docca wrote: Fri Jun 13, 2025 12:06 pm ......pounding the wife)
We'll all miss that too. :P

:o Does Docca know you've been doing that! :shock:
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As I've got older i've got very, well, protective of my wife. Having had a few health scares and a crumbling skeleton, I expect i'll go first and I worry about her being on her own, more than my passing. Probably deflection so I dont have to do anything healthy...
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@taipan your post pretty much sums me up. Every Sunday ......on my wife’s car.... I check tyre pressure.... make sure all lights are working. Next job is showing how to change a wheel......check oil levels......where the windscreen washer bottle is.....how to identify a problem if the rcd trips on the d/board

Stuff like that

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I have tried to do this also. How to logon, reset this that and the other. Not interested. I'll call our son is the usual reply.
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Yeah, sometimes.
I feel like a bit of a whippersnapper here at (only, ha) 53.

I can honestly say that I think about my dogs lifespan more than I do my own.
He's 4, and knocking on for a third of a way through his life
That'll be mebbe another 8-10 years.

Dunno if that makes me unconcerned about my own lifespan or just soppy for me dawg, could go either way I guess.

The continued health of my wife is a concern as I think she may well struggle more than I will as we age.

Can't say I fancy the idea of a slow decline but the males of my family dont seem particularly long lived so I doubt that'll happen.
Meh, be reet eh!?
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Feck me, you're a morose lot, live is for living, live it.
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I had a quick review of my life expectancy yesterday when a car-driving numpty decided to overtake a cyclist irrespective of the oncoming traffic ie me. Two cars approaching each other, both at 40 mph. The driver appeared to be more prepared to do a head-on than take out the cyclist. Chances are, if I hadn't taken some seriously evasive action, there'd have been two cars AND a bicycle in a messy heap. (It was close enough that I was 'braced for impact').

So, maybe, generally good health doesn't mean you don't need to worry about making plans for when you check out. You might just have a bad/unlucky day.

Get yer wills sorted. :thumbup:
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TBH I'd take the head on over a cyclist too, everyone is more likely to survive!
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Mr. Dazzle wrote: Sun Jun 15, 2025 7:52 am TBH I'd take the head on over a cyclist too, everyone is more likely to survive!
Meh...if the cyclist had been on the (expensively created) cycle path a few feet away none of this would have happened. :lol:

Fair collateral damage I'd say. :thumbup:
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Count Steer wrote: Sun Jun 15, 2025 7:57 am
Mr. Dazzle wrote: Sun Jun 15, 2025 7:52 am TBH I'd take the head on over a cyclist too, everyone is more likely to survive!
Meh...if the cyclist had been on the (expensively created) cycle path a few feet away none of this would have happened. :lol:

Fair collateral damage I'd say. :thumbup:
The government fund only specified the money was for a cycle path, not a usable one. The council probably cared more about how much money they could overspend on this to get a discount somewhere else.
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Mussels wrote: Sun Jun 15, 2025 5:03 pm
Count Steer wrote: Sun Jun 15, 2025 7:57 am
Mr. Dazzle wrote: Sun Jun 15, 2025 7:52 am TBH I'd take the head on over a cyclist too, everyone is more likely to survive!
Meh...if the cyclist had been on the (expensively created) cycle path a few feet away none of this would have happened. :lol:

Fair collateral damage I'd say. :thumbup:
The government fund only specified the money was for a cycle path, not a usable one. The council probably cared more about how much money they could overspend on this to get a discount somewhere else.
It's true, they went over budget. It took a fair bit of campaigning to get them to do it and it's a bit deluxe. ie a raised, kerbed path, not a white line on the road. They had to acquire some land to widen things as the road wasn't wide enough otherwise.

Locals use it (as a cycle path and footpath) as they now have a safe route from the village to the next bigger one where the shops and schools are but the wannabe Eddie Merx contingent would rather put a bell on their bike than stop creating 10+ car tail-backs. (It's a twisty road through woodland so the chances of getting by a string of them - with no car sized gaps in the line of course - are limited).
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Here in MK we have an entirely separate road network for pedestrians and cyclists. It is also pretty much pot hole and crack free cause nothing heavy ever uses it. 99% of the time cyclist and car have no reason to meet.

Doesn't stop people cycling on the road in semi suicidal fashion.

Still it could be worse, I seem to be coming across more and more people walking down the middle of the road :think:
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A mate told me over a pint that one way he tries to fight the ageing process in his relationship and still be up for sexy time with his wife is to watch older lady porn. A niche, if you will. As his wife gets older, he’s still keen to throw his leg over as ageing women are his fetish ( he’s always been faithful).

Well that didn’t work for me. Fired up the pornotron as usual, searched ‘older ladies’ only to be presented with 70 year olds who look as though they’ve been tapped more times than a blind mans cane. Cuckold porn involved a husband watching the carers dress his wife. I dunno, maybe I’ll think differently in a few years.

Paradoxically, it’s not made me worry about death anymore.
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60. Never ever even considered dying, which is surprising given the last year 🙂 The Macmillan nurses say attitude has a lot to do with recovery, if you go all weepy waily why me then you're probably fucked.
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Mr. Dazzle wrote: Sun Jun 15, 2025 5:53 pm Here in MK we have an entirely separate road network for pedestrians and cyclists. It is also pretty much pot hole and crack free cause nothing heavy ever uses it. 99% of the time cyclist and car have no reason to meet.

Doesn't stop people cycling on the road in semi suicidal fashion.

Still it could be worse, I seem to be coming across more and more people walking down the middle of the road :think:
And very good it is for leisure travel too. But trying to get from A to B on a bike swiftly it is far better to use the grid roads. The layout of the redways assumes no cyclist ever goes at more than about 10mph.
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