Here's a million quid

[DefTrap]

Hang on, only a page ago people were saying happiness is just a state of mind and has nothing to do with your location/circumstances.

I dunno if -I- was. People make the best of their lot don't they? I wasn't hugely miserable in my 'worst' location - I never considered I would be stuck there forever. Plus times change and your attitude changes. I have a 'worst' location that I would have in mind, maybe it wouldn't have been 'worst' if I had been fecking loaded at the time. I -think- I'm more easy-going now, but I'm in a situation (nice house, nice place to live, relaxed surroundings) where that is a fairly easy attitude to have - more likely is that I would be hugely curmudgeonly being thrown back into a scenario that I had visited before and never wished to return to.

But we're just spitballing here...

[Mr. Dazzle]

I went through a stage of being one of the biggest arseholes on forums, one day i decided to change

You did?

Come on, someone had to.

[Greenman]

That's not what I read fella.

Location, yeah that's what people said.

If anything people have been saying circumstances are what actually matters.

I can only go on what's posted mate.

Had they posted "Nah location didn't matter but circumstances did" then I'd have had something else to work with.

I'm assuming people chose the location because it made them happy, you'd be a bit simple buying a place to live in a location that made you unhappy.

It's you that decides whether or not your happy, not your geographic location.

I’m curious now, you people that bought houses - did you consider the location...

Location etc 100% makes a difference to me, so does the people i live around.

100% we bought on location more than anything else.

You've mis-represented my comments slightly. I said i bought this house because of location. I never said i was unhappy somewhere else or indeed anywhere else lol.
However, this place does make me happy yes.

He's got mine muddled up too, i was just replying to his post asking if your locations etc matters, nothing else.

[Greenman]

And in the same vein, moving somewhere else is unlikely to resolve your problems in and of itself.

I'd disagree on that one.

What if you had really annoying neighbours living in a flat but then went to move to a detached house to avoid annoying neighbours?

That had a massive positive change on my mental health, as i no longer woke up wanting to kill my neighbour of a morning each day!

[Yambo]

14th May I posted this:

Anywhere/everywhere can be a nice place to live.

It all depends on the people. An absolutely gorgeous place will be a shit place to live if the people are horrible and an inner city 'hell hole' could be just fine if the people are lovely.

People make places.

I've also said in the past that happiness is relative. Nothing has changed.

[Mr. Dazzle]

And in the same vein, moving somewhere else is unlikely to resolve your problems in and of itself.

I'd disagree on that one.

What if you had really annoying neighbours living in a flat but then went to move to a detached house to avoid annoying neighbours?

That had a massive positive change on my mental health, as i no longer woke up wanting to kill my neighbour of a morning each day!

If the only negative in your life is your neighbours then you're a lucky man.

[weeksy]

And in the same vein, moving somewhere else is unlikely to resolve your problems in and of itself.

I'd disagree on that one.

What if you had really annoying neighbours living in a flat but then went to move to a detached house to avoid annoying neighbours?

That had a massive positive change on my mental health, as i no longer woke up wanting to kill my neighbour of a morning each day!

If the only negative in your life is your neighbours then you're a lucky man.

What if you don't have any ?

[Mr. Dazzle]

Then you will never have anyone to become good friends.

[weeksy]

Then you will never have anyone to become good friends.

i meant Negatives, not neighbours

[MrLongbeard]

Better off getting the divorce before you get that fifty million, from a financial PoV at least

25 million, 50 million, it's all the same

[Greenman]

Then you will never have anyone to become good friends.

My neighbours where i live now are great.

I was DJ'ing with one of them a few weeks back. We are all of similar age with similar taste in music etc, so it works quite well. I do a yearly party in my back garden that most neighbours turn up for...

In my previous abode you were lucky if the neighbours even made eye contact!

[Noggin]

If you won £50m in the lottery you’d stay living in the same house and same location would you?

I'd stay in the same location but 100% buy a different apartment (I'd love a chalet but for one that would probably be excessive and feel lonely!) - but then most of you guys have garages bigger than my 13.7sqm apartment!!

Before anyone leaps in, that's not a complaint. I have THE MOST AMAZING VIEW I've ever had. It makes me happy when I want to sit and cry or scream. Yes, a garage would be nice cos then I'd have a less 'full' apartment, even a cave (storage lockery type thing) within the building would solve that. But you know what, despite living in what is essentially a large caravan sized place, I'm pretty damn happy with it! (And unless I win the lotto, am unlikely to be moving anytime soon!! LOL But if I get the right contract, maybe I will!! )

All of that said, i am one of these people who believe 100% that you can choose happiness, whatever... . It's a mindset. (science may disagree, pschologists may disagree, but for me, it works).

As I 'may' have mentioned occasionally on here, I have had a pretty horrific 5.5 years (so far). I often have people saying I'm brave or strong or inspirational because I'm always positive.

Well, firstly, it's rare I let anyone see me when I'm not and secondly, I have no choice. No one is going to held my hand while I drown in negativity. So, I choose to be positive.

Friends have had worse injuries or situations and come through. Others haven't come through. I made a choice at the beginning of this whole thing that I HAD to see the positive to survive and I refused to not make it through. It's not strong etc. It's a simple choice

So, as you say, happiness is as much a choice as positivity!! And I've had to make that choice to be happy at some points as well. Gotta be done

[Demannu]

I’m curious now, you people that bought houses - did you consider the location or did you just stumble into an estate agent and buy the first thing they put in front of you?

Do some of you genuinely think that your location, surroundings, daylight hours, weather, ambient temperatures, seasonal changes, demographics, etc, has absolutely no effect on your wellbeing?

I'll bite.
Checked out the various important things like crime rates, bus frequency, nearby children. We even sat there for an afternoon just to monitor traffic past the house and the 4pm rush.
1st night we moved there, car stolen. A further 2 vehicles were stolen and 3 damaged in some way or other.
We had a barrage of 'you English, buying up our houses, taking our jobs'. The local pub was like the one in American werewolf, it went silent when we walked in.
Eventually had to block up the letter box as someone poured petrol through and left a box of matches by the door.
The place was a cross between Royston Vasey and the village of the damned.
On the bright side we made 120% profit when we sold it

[cheb]

I’m curious now, you people that bought houses - did you consider the location or did you just stumble into an estate agent and buy the first thing they put in front of you?

Do some of you genuinely think that your location, surroundings, daylight hours, weather, ambient temperatures, seasonal changes, demographics, etc, has absolutely no effect on your wellbeing?

I'll bite.
Checked out the various important things like crime rates, bus frequency, nearby children. We even sat there for an afternoon just to monitor traffic past the house and the 4pm rush.
1st night we moved there, car stolen. A further 2 vehicles were stolen and 3 damaged in some way or other.
We had a barrage of 'you English, buying up our houses, taking our jobs'. The local pub was like the one in American werewolf, it went silent when we walked in.
Eventually had to block up the letter box as someone poured petrol through and left a box of matches by the door.
The place was a cross between Royston Vasey and the village of the damned.
On the bright side we made 120% profit when we sold it

Whereabouts in Scotland was that?

[Noggin]

I’m curious now, you people that bought houses - did you consider the location or did you just stumble into an estate agent and buy the first thing they put in front of you?

Do some of you genuinely think that your location, surroundings, daylight hours, weather, ambient temperatures, seasonal changes, demographics, etc, has absolutely no effect on your wellbeing?

I'll bite.
Checked out the various important things like crime rates, bus frequency, nearby children. We even sat there for an afternoon just to monitor traffic past the house and the 4pm rush.
1st night we moved there, car stolen. A further 2 vehicles were stolen and 3 damaged in some way or other.
We had a barrage of 'you English, buying up our houses, taking our jobs'. The local pub was like the one in American werewolf, it went silent when we walked in.
Eventually had to block up the letter box as someone poured petrol through and left a box of matches by the door.
The place was a cross between Royston Vasey and the village of the damned.
On the bright side we made 120% profit when we sold it

Whereabouts in Scotland was that?

I thought it was the Welsh valleys!!

[Demannu]

Small village just outside Blaenau Ffestiniog.

[cheb]

That sort of thing would never happen in England.

[Supermofo]

Farking ell, you lot could argue about anything! Glad I don't live next to any of you kunts

[Jody]

Farking ell, you lot could argue about anything! Glad I don't live next to any of you kunts

Not even for a Million?

[Supermofo]

Farking ell, you lot could argue about anything! Glad I don't live next to any of you kunts

Not even for a Million?

A million isn't enough!!!