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Trinity765 wrote: Fri Sep 30, 2022 4:03 pm Today is the second day that I've come home and cried after no tears for a month. We put my Mum's house on the market on Thursday and we've had two viewings today and two tomorrow. It seems to have happened very quickly and I didn't know it would hit me like this. I remember her moving in like it was yesterday, nearly 30 years ago. It was a new start for her. She was very creative and did a lot of the handy work. Every inch of it is her, the walls, the curtains, the lampshades, the colours, the pictures and the ornaments. I remember her dreams, her ideas and how happy she was.

And to add onto that every headline seems to be about mortgages and house prices - there's no escape.

I'm ok - I just wanted to voice it and I don't want to tell my family that I'm finding it hard.

My wife died 11 years ago Trinity. I can still have the odd moment.

It's gonna take time and if you think your family ain't gonna understand or even have their odd moments you're being silly.

Today I made a discovery. I often feel shit/lethargic early to mid afternoon.
Assumed it was because I do a long dog walk then brekky then slob on the sofa.

But midday anxiety is a real thing and I've been reading ways to improve it.

I felt really shit today and it may have been made worse as I just started cholesterol tablets yesterday. So investigated.

So now I know what I'm battling

Trinity765 wrote: Fri Sep 30, 2022 4:03 pm Today is the second day that I've come home and cried after no tears for a month. We put my Mum's house on the market on Thursday and we've had two viewings today and two tomorrow. It seems to have happened very quickly and I didn't know it would hit me like this. I remember her moving in like it was yesterday, nearly 30 years ago. It was a new start for her. She was very creative and did a lot of the handy work. Every inch of it is her, the walls, the curtains, the lampshades, the colours, the pictures and the ornaments. I remember her dreams, her ideas and how happy she was.

And to add onto that every headline seems to be about mortgages and house prices - there's no escape.

I'm ok - I just wanted to voice it and I don't want to tell my family that I'm finding it hard.

It's almost 11 years since my Dad died and I still have moments. I wasn't so involved as we were not close to his wife. So I was close to my Dad but not to his life (I went to the office and we had lunch out somewhere then I went home, no homelife interaction). But, because we spoke often in the winters when I was here, there is so much here that reminds me of him. And world events often make me remember him because he'd be spitting nails at some of the stuff that's been going on!!


I do remember my mum talking to me about remembering her Dad. I would have been in my 30's, possibly 40's, and her Dad died when she was in her early teens (she had me at about 25). She said that just every now and then, even after 40+ years, she would suddenly have a moment and want to cry (my mother didn't do emotion, so for normal people, that means having a proper cry!). I still have moments around bikes when I cry because I miss my old riding buddy (6 years gone)


I think that with people that have been close to us - parents, other family, close friends - some memories will always affect us emotionally. Yambo is right that your family and friends will understand, but also I get that sometimes it's easier to share somewhere like here than with people we see regularly

Hugs to you xxx

Trinity765 wrote: Fri Sep 30, 2022 4:03 pm Today is the second day that I've come home and cried after no tears for a month. We put my Mum's house on the market on Thursday and we've had two viewings today and two tomorrow. It seems to have happened very quickly and I didn't know it would hit me like this. I remember her moving in like it was yesterday, nearly 30 years ago. It was a new start for her. She was very creative and did a lot of the handy work. Every inch of it is her, the walls, the curtains, the lampshades, the colours, the pictures and the ornaments. I remember her dreams, her ideas and how happy she was.

And to add onto that every headline seems to be about mortgages and house prices - there's no escape.

I'm ok - I just wanted to voice it and I don't want to tell my family that I'm finding it hard.

I think you should be more worried if you weren’t having moments.
There’s nothing wrong with having a cry and a moment at the memory.
In terms of grieving a month isn’t very long.

I lost someone I loved dearly 15 years ago and still have a cry when I think of her and where we could be now, I even take a bit of reassurance and maybe some kind of pleasure from the moments that I miss her so much I cry.

Been on a downer today. Watched “Ambulance “ on bbc 1 last night. Heartbreaking to watch.

Then watched question time. Switched off after 20 mins. Depressing to watch.

Read about that 14 year old girl who took her own life .

What hacks me off is there is no good news on the horizon anywhere.

Anyway, tomorrow is another day. Onwards and upwards

Wscad wrote: Fri Sep 30, 2022 5:56 pm Been on a downer today. Watched “Ambulance “ on bbc 1 last night. Heartbreaking to watch.

Then watched question time. Switched off after 20 mins. Depressing to watch.

Read about that 14 year old girl who took her own life .

What hacks me off is there is no good news on the horizon anywhere.

Anyway, tomorrow is another day. Onwards and upwards

Good news is made by you not society or the TV!

I love watching ambulance, those people are saints but it can be depressing, at least you aren't on there as a patient!!!

Go do something you enjoy and be happy...

Wscad wrote: Fri Sep 30, 2022 5:56 pm Been on a downer today. Watched “Ambulance “ on bbc 1 last night. Heartbreaking to watch.

Then watched question time. Switched off after 20 mins. Depressing to watch.

Read about that 14 year old girl who took her own life .

What hacks me off is there is no good news on the horizon anywhere.

Anyway, tomorrow is another day. Onwards and upwards

There are certain programmes I know will tip me onto the slope! I watch light weight stuff, unimportant stuff and get my news from here or the Friday night News Quiz (when it's on) because I can't deal with all the misery of actual news

What GM says - see if you can do something to address the balance xx

I used to follow current affairs, but stopped some years ago. Harbingers of doom the lot of them. I no longer watch things like Question Time, or listen to LBC and rarely watch the news and life is a lot better for it. Go for a walk or ride, and embrace the view of the seasons. It's still a lovely planet we're on, despite what the inhabitants are trying to do to it and each other!

Question Time has become like an offshoot of The Jeremy Vine Show. A sort of rent-a-gob scummer fest with no real debate of any value.

Although TBF that kind of reflects the post 2016 zeitgeist.

Taipan wrote: Fri Sep 30, 2022 6:50 pm I used to follow current affairs, but stopped some years ago. Harbingers of doom the lot of them. I no longer watch things like Question Time, or listen to LBC and rarely watch the news and life is a lot better for it. Go for a walk or ride, and embrace the view of the seasons. It's still a lovely planet we're on, despite what the inhabitants are trying to do to it and each other!

Watch the News your Bound to Lose!

Everything you think is correct and anything else is just the world and media fighting to make you spend!

Spend Spend Spend, yeah right!

Some good advice on here for me personally . Thank you

Good having this thread.

I'm coming into the worst time of year for me. I really struggle with the darker longer nights. Once it starts getting darker and it's into the evening everything has snowballed in my head from the day. It certainly explains why I don't sleep well at all and haven't done for about 10 years.

Some advice I was given many years ago re: winter and depression.

If you have depression over winter you have to really dig deep- it’s up to you whether that’s applying yourself much more to making it through, or a hole deep enough for your coffin.

I’ve been fairly chipper these last few days despite the following :-

Friday.....2 new Michelin cross climate tyres for my wife’s polo £250.
Saturday..... new boiler fitted £2300.
Today.....£100 to fill my van full of fuel.

Freezer in garage is full of food, as is the one in the kitchen

Clothes in the wardrobe, a few quid in the back pocket and some dosh in the bank

Wife says she loves me, and I love her cos she’s booked and paid for a week in the canary isles at the end of Nov.

Today I have bought some mealworm for the robinsit’s not cheap and if the little sods don’t get to be mates with me then they will be back on the cheap stuff.

live long and prosper everyone

I have also discovered how to “thank people on this forum”

Wscad wrote: Mon Oct 03, 2022 8:08 pm I’ve been fairly chipper these last few days despite the following :-

Friday.....2 new Michelin cross climate tyres for my wife’s polo £250.
Saturday..... new boiler fitted £2300.
Today.....£100 to fill my van full of fuel.

Freezer in garage is full of food, as is the one in the kitchen

Clothes in the wardrobe, a few quid in the back pocket and some dosh in the bank

Wife says she loves me, and I love her cos she’s booked and paid for a week in the canary isles at the end of Nov.

Ooh. Which one?

Yorick wrote: Mon Oct 03, 2022 8:30 pm

Wscad wrote: Mon Oct 03, 2022 8:08 pm I’ve been fairly chipper these last few days despite the following :-

Friday.....2 new Michelin cross climate tyres for my wife’s polo £250.
Saturday..... new boiler fitted £2300.
Today.....£100 to fill my van full of fuel.

Freezer in garage is full of food, as is the one in the kitchen

Clothes in the wardrobe, a few quid in the back pocket and some dosh in the bank

Wife says she loves me, and I love her cos she’s booked and paid for a week in the canary isles at the end of Nov.

Ooh. Which one?

He only has 1 wife.

weeksy wrote: Mon Oct 03, 2022 8:50 pm

Yorick wrote: Mon Oct 03, 2022 8:30 pm

Wscad wrote: Mon Oct 03, 2022 8:08 pm I’ve been fairly chipper these last few days despite the following :-

Friday.....2 new Michelin cross climate tyres for my wife’s polo £250.
Saturday..... new boiler fitted £2300.
Today.....£100 to fill my van full of fuel.

Freezer in garage is full of food, as is the one in the kitchen

Clothes in the wardrobe, a few quid in the back pocket and some dosh in the bank

Wife says she loves me, and I love her cos she’s booked and paid for a week in the canary isles at the end of Nov.

Ooh. Which one?

He only has 1 wife.

He could be Sheik Wscad and has a large Harem?

Things will get worse, things will get better, things will increase but we will find a way to live together !

Feeling extremely deflated this morning. Think the news again hitting us with the recession fears. Actually, not really fears any longer, it's happening.

Some days are good and some days are not so good. A mate told me the other day.

There is no such thing as a bad day...........there are good days and better days. It sort of works for me currently