Well, miracles happen - on top of the plan that worked, yesterday I got an email from the prefecture that had attached, not only a copy of the RIR (which I had from the day before) but also the RII (The RII is a bit more detailed and lists the points you have left - turns out I currently have 11, but should get the 12th one back soon )
Haven't passed on the RII (school only wanted the RIR), but it's handy to have
@Yorick What he says up there ^^^weeksy wrote: ↑Wed Sep 04, 2024 11:48 amDon't be so harsh on yourself, we're not magicians or superbeings us parents, all we did was stick ourselves insideYorick wrote: ↑Tue Sep 03, 2024 5:07 pm Through situations out of my control and some choices, I was never able to have kids, and subsequently grandkids.
But I've always had a special bond with my only nephew.
Today his daughter was born and I'm beaming like a loon. And a few little tears..
I can nearly imagine what it feels like to have kids and grandkids.
By having that bond you're already an equal to the parents, i'd even argue better than a fair few based upon society today.
Take your win and run with it...
My non biological Dad has been as much a Dad to me as my bio one was. In a different way, but he's been there all my life and he's awesome. Some humans shouldn't be parents. Some people should have been parents.
The really special people are the ones that choose to have a family type relationship with a child when they don't have to. Step parents (not the ones out of stories that are horrible, the good ones!) and friends/family that step into an aunt/uncle type role when it's not expected but it IS appreciated
My biggest regret in life is not having kids (and not being in a position to foster them - yet!). BUT my god daughter insisted that I was at her wedding because she considers me her Auntie as much as just her Mum's best mate. I've always been around, albeit at a distance, but she's always known I was there for her if she wanted to talk to someone other than her mum. On the flip side - back a while when she was having some issues, I was able to say stuff to her in a slightly more 'straight' way than her mum could. Not harsh (and cleared with Mum first!) but just straight to the point with love. (the other awesome thing about the wedding was that she wanted my step dad there too - she doesn't have any grandparents and he's been her 'Grandpa' since she met him when she was about 13. )
Hopefully my niece and nephew will always remember that I'm here and they can call/turn up if they need me.
The fact that you have that bond with your nephew will, I'm sure, mean LOADS to him too. And you can be a granduncle to his daughter. She'll love that and so will your nephew.
Enjoy your new granduncle status - celebrate and remember to buy stupid stuff for her and break some (not really bad) rules that her parents can't do with her! (kids love that!!)