Depression

[tricol]

I've been all over the place since moving into the new place on Friday. Can't figure out what it is exactly, the unknowns on running the new house, only getting my first mortgage at the ripe age of 39, and the turmoil that seems to keep unfolding in front of us all. We deserve a period of stability after the pandemic, and now the war and energy crisis.

Tempted to try CBD oil to help take the edge off.

[Greenman]

I've been all over the place since moving into the new place on Friday. Can't figure out what it is exactly, the unknowns on running the new house, only getting my first mortgage at the ripe age of 39, and the turmoil that seems to keep unfolding in front of us all. We deserve a period of stability after the pandemic, and now the war and energy crisis.

Tempted to try CBD oil to help take the edge off.

Fuck CBD get some proper edibles from these guys, they are really good. The gummies are really good from them, get the imported refresher ones.

naturalhealthoil.co.uk

[asmethurst99]

I think this thread needs to keep going. There is a almighty shitstorm coming and we need keep talking

I think this thread needs to keep going. There is a almighty shitstorm coming and we need keep talking

Agreed. @weeksy can this be a sticky?

What they said. Even just after the last 2.5 years, I think there is more that has affected people than many realise

The last 2 years haven't done my 17 yr old any good - I've nothing to add apart from tea and sympathy-

[Noggin]

I think this thread needs to keep going. There is a almighty shitstorm coming and we need keep talking

Agreed. @weeksy can this be a sticky?

What they said. Even just after the last 2.5 years, I think there is more that has affected people than many realise

The last 2 years haven't done my 17 yr old any good - I've nothing to add apart from tea and sympathy-

Just knowing that someone is willing to offer tea, sympathy and a listening ear is often the biggest thing. Other people can't solve depression for us (maybe professionals can, I haven't had a lot of luck along those lines) but if we have people around that we can talk to or just sit with, that is huge and can help us on the way - IME

For me, the biggest help I had in a really low point was a friend from the other place writing to me to tell me to call if I needed. She said "you don't have to talk. I'll listen if you do, but I'll also listen if you are sitting at the other end making snotty crying noises. I'll be here if you need to call"

The reason I never needed to call her? Because just knowing she was there if I did need her gave me some sort of strength to be able to carry on and try and sort myself out to find a balance. I do still know that if I call, she'll still listen. And I've held on to that for about ten years!!

Same with having someone to go and actually talk to face to face, or have a cuppa with; someone non judgemental who'll listen (and also maybe be quite straight talking too, everyone is different) - I only found that over here in the last year or so and didn't realise how much I missed it and hadn't realised how important it is

Hope your 17 year old comes through positively soon xx

[asmethurst99]

Thanks Noggin we will get there .

[Screwdriver]

When I was working in the garden regularly, a pair would always follow me around waiting for a pause so they could hoover up some worms.

[Trinity765]

Today is the second day that I've come home and cried after no tears for a month. We put my Mum's house on the market on Thursday and we've had two viewings today and two tomorrow. It seems to have happened very quickly and I didn't know it would hit me like this. I remember her moving in like it was yesterday, nearly 30 years ago. It was a new start for her. She was very creative and did a lot of the handy work. Every inch of it is her, the walls, the curtains, the lampshades, the colours, the pictures and the ornaments. I remember her dreams, her ideas and how happy she was.

And to add onto that every headline seems to be about mortgages and house prices - there's no escape.

I'm ok - I just wanted to voice it and I don't want to tell my family that I'm finding it hard.

[Yambo]

Today is the second day that I've come home and cried after no tears for a month. We put my Mum's house on the market on Thursday and we've had two viewings today and two tomorrow. It seems to have happened very quickly and I didn't know it would hit me like this. I remember her moving in like it was yesterday, nearly 30 years ago. It was a new start for her. She was very creative and did a lot of the handy work. Every inch of it is her, the walls, the curtains, the lampshades, the colours, the pictures and the ornaments. I remember her dreams, her ideas and how happy she was.

And to add onto that every headline seems to be about mortgages and house prices - there's no escape.

I'm ok - I just wanted to voice it and I don't want to tell my family that I'm finding it hard.

My wife died 11 years ago Trinity. I can still have the odd moment.

It's gonna take time and if you think your family ain't gonna understand or even have their odd moments you're being silly.

[Yorick]

Today I made a discovery. I often feel shit/lethargic early to mid afternoon.
Assumed it was because I do a long dog walk then brekky then slob on the sofa.

But midday anxiety is a real thing and I've been reading ways to improve it.

I felt really shit today and it may have been made worse as I just started cholesterol tablets yesterday. So investigated.

So now I know what I'm battling

[Noggin]

Today is the second day that I've come home and cried after no tears for a month. We put my Mum's house on the market on Thursday and we've had two viewings today and two tomorrow. It seems to have happened very quickly and I didn't know it would hit me like this. I remember her moving in like it was yesterday, nearly 30 years ago. It was a new start for her. She was very creative and did a lot of the handy work. Every inch of it is her, the walls, the curtains, the lampshades, the colours, the pictures and the ornaments. I remember her dreams, her ideas and how happy she was.

And to add onto that every headline seems to be about mortgages and house prices - there's no escape.

I'm ok - I just wanted to voice it and I don't want to tell my family that I'm finding it hard.

It's almost 11 years since my Dad died and I still have moments. I wasn't so involved as we were not close to his wife. So I was close to my Dad but not to his life (I went to the office and we had lunch out somewhere then I went home, no homelife interaction). But, because we spoke often in the winters when I was here, there is so much here that reminds me of him. And world events often make me remember him because he'd be spitting nails at some of the stuff that's been going on!!


I do remember my mum talking to me about remembering her Dad. I would have been in my 30's, possibly 40's, and her Dad died when she was in her early teens (she had me at about 25). She said that just every now and then, even after 40+ years, she would suddenly have a moment and want to cry (my mother didn't do emotion, so for normal people, that means having a proper cry!). I still have moments around bikes when I cry because I miss my old riding buddy (6 years gone)


I think that with people that have been close to us - parents, other family, close friends - some memories will always affect us emotionally. Yambo is right that your family and friends will understand, but also I get that sometimes it's easier to share somewhere like here than with people we see regularly

Hugs to you xxx

[Scud]

Today is the second day that I've come home and cried after no tears for a month. We put my Mum's house on the market on Thursday and we've had two viewings today and two tomorrow. It seems to have happened very quickly and I didn't know it would hit me like this. I remember her moving in like it was yesterday, nearly 30 years ago. It was a new start for her. She was very creative and did a lot of the handy work. Every inch of it is her, the walls, the curtains, the lampshades, the colours, the pictures and the ornaments. I remember her dreams, her ideas and how happy she was.

And to add onto that every headline seems to be about mortgages and house prices - there's no escape.

I'm ok - I just wanted to voice it and I don't want to tell my family that I'm finding it hard.

I think you should be more worried if you weren’t having moments.
There’s nothing wrong with having a cry and a moment at the memory.
In terms of grieving a month isn’t very long.

I lost someone I loved dearly 15 years ago and still have a cry when I think of her and where we could be now, I even take a bit of reassurance and maybe some kind of pleasure from the moments that I miss her so much I cry.

[Wscad]

Been on a downer today. Watched “Ambulance “ on bbc 1 last night. Heartbreaking to watch.

Then watched question time. Switched off after 20 mins. Depressing to watch.

Read about that 14 year old girl who took her own life .

What hacks me off is there is no good news on the horizon anywhere.

Anyway, tomorrow is another day. Onwards and upwards

[Greenman]

Been on a downer today. Watched “Ambulance “ on bbc 1 last night. Heartbreaking to watch.

Then watched question time. Switched off after 20 mins. Depressing to watch.

Read about that 14 year old girl who took her own life .

What hacks me off is there is no good news on the horizon anywhere.

Anyway, tomorrow is another day. Onwards and upwards

Good news is made by you not society or the TV!

I love watching ambulance, those people are saints but it can be depressing, at least you aren't on there as a patient!!!

Go do something you enjoy and be happy...

[Noggin]

Been on a downer today. Watched “Ambulance “ on bbc 1 last night. Heartbreaking to watch.

Then watched question time. Switched off after 20 mins. Depressing to watch.

Read about that 14 year old girl who took her own life .

What hacks me off is there is no good news on the horizon anywhere.

Anyway, tomorrow is another day. Onwards and upwards

There are certain programmes I know will tip me onto the slope! I watch light weight stuff, unimportant stuff and get my news from here or the Friday night News Quiz (when it's on) because I can't deal with all the misery of actual news

What GM says - see if you can do something to address the balance xx

[Taipan]

I used to follow current affairs, but stopped some years ago. Harbingers of doom the lot of them. I no longer watch things like Question Time, or listen to LBC and rarely watch the news and life is a lot better for it. Go for a walk or ride, and embrace the view of the seasons. It's still a lovely planet we're on, despite what the inhabitants are trying to do to it and each other!

[Asian Boss]

Question Time has become like an offshoot of The Jeremy Vine Show. A sort of rent-a-gob scummer fest with no real debate of any value.

Although TBF that kind of reflects the post 2016 zeitgeist.

[Greenman]

I used to follow current affairs, but stopped some years ago. Harbingers of doom the lot of them. I no longer watch things like Question Time, or listen to LBC and rarely watch the news and life is a lot better for it. Go for a walk or ride, and embrace the view of the seasons. It's still a lovely planet we're on, despite what the inhabitants are trying to do to it and each other!

Watch the News your Bound to Lose!

Everything you think is correct and anything else is just the world and media fighting to make you spend!

Spend Spend Spend, yeah right!

[Wscad]

Some good advice on here for me personally . Thank you

[tricol]

Good having this thread.

I'm coming into the worst time of year for me. I really struggle with the darker longer nights. Once it starts getting darker and it's into the evening everything has snowballed in my head from the day. It certainly explains why I don't sleep well at all and haven't done for about 10 years.

[Docca]

Some advice I was given many years ago re: winter and depression.

If you have depression over winter you have to really dig deep- it’s up to you whether that’s applying yourself much more to making it through, or a hole deep enough for your coffin.