Potter wrote: ↑Thu Sep 09, 2021 4:12 am
slowsider wrote: ↑Wed Sep 08, 2021 3:18 pm
By the time you die they'll have houses of their own already.
Parents don't want to watch kids struggle, but they do like to think they could cope in adversity once the bank of mumandad is shut.
I worded it wrong, the idea is to give them all a good start before I die. Instead of saying I'd like to "leave" them nice houses, I'd actually like to gift it to them when they need it.
Everyone is capable of coping without handouts, you don't have any choice, you have to survive without a handout if no one gives you one, but there is this perverse working class thing where it's a badge of honour to
not gift your kids an easy life, I find it weird, being in the rat race to achieve financial security is a mugs game and if I can create a situation where my kids don't have to then I'll jump at it.
People that suffer financially are often disadvantaged and suffer more health issues, not to mention stress at having to work their arses off. Even normal working class folk suffer from stress and hardship, taking on debt just to fund a nice house, etc. I've personally struggled financially at certain periods of my life, juggling bills and worrying, so why wouldn't you want to try and push your kids past that with a bit of financial help?
Some people make it sound like they're doing their kids a favour by not helping them.
[bloke in vest] I grew up skint so I'll damn well make sure my kids spend the first twenty years of their adult lives skint, it might knock ten years off their life expectancy and give them 2-3 decades of worry but it'll make men out of them... beats chest...
I'm struggling to see the value in that.
I have an uncle that was gifted a house when he got married, it made a massive impact to his life having a family home that was suitable for his whole life and not needing to ever take a mortgage. He's in his 70's now and he told me that looking back it had a huge impact on his life and gave him freedom and peace not having to worry about paying for his home, he had a very successful career and could make choices that other people couldn't. I remember my parents struggling throughout the late 70's and 80's when times were tough, he had a very different experience.