irie wrote: ↑Mon Mar 28, 2022 8:47 am
Noggin wrote: ↑Mon Mar 28, 2022 6:55 am
The thing is, I can understand where that has come from. There are times when people can stare with lust, stare whilst mentally undressing someone (which is pretty obvious when you watch the face of the starer!). Which could seriously unnerve the one being stared at depending on the situation
But HTF can you legislate against it?
Just ignore a "starer". Simples.
I do. But then I've worked in pubs since I was 16 so I'm used to drunk letches. Sober letches have zero effect!! But other people aren't the same
For instance, I had a friend that constantly felt 'harassed' on the tube. She felt that whenever she was on the tube, there'd be someone that would follow her, stand too close so she felt threatened, stare at her etc etc etc. She always felt uncomfortable.
Me? Same situations, I never noticed anyone behaving like that!! The difference in our figures then would suggest that I would probably get more 'hassle' but I didn't notice.
So, was she expecting it because she felt that the tube was an unsafe environment and the flip side is that I didn't notice because I didn't care? Was she getting the 'looks/harassment' because she gave off the vibe of being in fear. Was she imagining it? Or was I just daft as a brush and didn't notice after years of dealing with letches in bars??
Like I said - HTF do you legislate against 'looks/looking'?? And as someone above said, if you are thinking about something completely different and happen to be staring into a space 'near' someone - will they assume you are letching at them? (My friend would have!! LOL)